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I didn’t get an “official” Mailbox Mondays question this week, so I’m using a Facebook question!
“I can’t remember if we’ve talked about this before or not. Did you have a baby shower for each of your children? We’re saving all the big stuff from Monkey, so all we would ask for (if we had another shower) would be clothes and stuff.”
The general consensus from the Facebook comments was that a get-together is always fun (who doesn’t love to talk pregnancy & babies?) but that an informal “sip & see” after baby comes, a blessingway etc. is maybe more appropriate.
I’ll be honest that I really didn’t understand the whole gasp “you can’t have a shower for a second baby!!” thing. I suppose I don’t see baby showers as gift grabs, plus…I love giving gifts! So, shower or not, I’m usually going to be looking for a gift for the mama & new baby. Particularly as my littles get bigger, it’s fun to look at all the new stuff!
Whether a family is having their second or seventh baby, chances are they need a few things. The new baby may be a different gender, same gender babies may be born in different seasons, clothes may be worn out etc. So how do you know what to get them? Usually baby registries are for the first baby, but lately I’ve noticed some registries for second+ babies. They’re usually just a few items, and I suspect mamas may just get tired of answering “what do you need” questions, LOL.
The first “gift” that comes to mind is the gift of you & your time, but if you’re close enough to the mama to take her older child to the park, wash a load of laundry, bring her food etc., you probably already know what she needs.
When I’m buying gifts for a first time mama, I like to choose something from the registry, and add in a couple things that I loved for my babies too. I like to include a gift receipt too, just in case! If I know a mama uses or is planning to use cloth diapers, that’s a no brainer for me! Especially if they are having a girl. Hee hee. If she is breastfeeding, consider making a breastfeeding gift basket with goodies like reusable nursing pads, Soothies, Lanolin, a nursing necklace, lactation cookies, snacks, drinks and maybe an activity for her older child. Consumables like baby wash, diaper cream, teething tablets & Tylenol are good choices (I realize not everyone uses all of these things!) or some new baby washcloths…anything that might be used up or ratty after the first baby!
When my babies were born, I struggled a little bit to keep everyone fed and had done my best to freeze meals before the baby was born. If you are close (physically and friendship-wise) to the new mama, definitely bring her a meal! I have considered buying restaurant gift cards as gifts, but then someone still has to go get the food (we are an hour round trip from anything but a pizza joint!) and said food is usually junk.
My new favorite business is MomMe Meals…a D.C. based business that will be expanding this year. MomMe Meals makes fabulous, fresh meals & snacks with organic ingredients, and recipes are created with a dietitian’s help to meet a nursing & pregnant mama’s nutritional needs. What I love about these healthy & nutritionally complete meals (delivered to mama’s door!) is that they’re frozen. The family can stick them in the freezer & pull them out when they really need them, when those first few weeks have passed and all the help has gone home!
Do you have a favorite baby gift? What would you like to receive as a second time mom?
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