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Karissa wants to know:
What to expect when nursing & sleep, without sleep training?
There’s always that rare baby that sleeps long stretches with no trouble, but in general babies want to be close to their Mommies! Breastmilk is easily digested, so newborns will nurse often and night time is no exception.
Co-sleeping was a lifesaver for me, since dragging my hiney out of bed and down the hall over and over and over is no fun. My son still sleeps with me at a year old, and while it’s not perfect, I get far more rest than I would if he were in another room.
I strongly suggest following your baby’s cues and your own instincts. My older son gave me the hardest time at bedtime as a toddler. I would nurse him and literally count to 1,000 before I attempted to put him down. He’d cry when I put him down, we’d repeat etc. etc. I was at my wits end. One day I really had to use the bathroom, so I put him down to go use the bathroom, planning to come right back. By the time I reached his door, he had stopped crying. From that point on, I’d put him down and would let him fuss long enough to use the bathroom. If he was crying when I finished, or if it escalated at all, I’d pick him up.
Some babies want to be held and snuggled while they sleep, while others sleep better alone. Some need to be nursed to sleep and then put down, while others prefer to be put down awake.
As far as what to expect, I’d say expect your baby to want to nurse a lot and be close to you, gradually sleeping longer stretches, and eventually sleeping alone (if that’s what you want). I know with my first baby the lack of sleep was really hard, and even more so with my second, since I had another child to take care of! It’s really still difficult with my third, but I am finally able to realize how quickly this time will pass, and to just enjoy the cuddles while I can.
Do you have advice for Karissa?