He had used the potty (#1 and #2) on his own accord when he was barely two, and had been going a few times a day for a while, but when he started picking up that we really wanted him to use the potty, he stopped using it all together. I was afraid he’d never use the potty and wouldn’t be able to go to preschool in the fall.
I’m not a fan of bribing my children (there’s a fine line between rewards/encouragement and bribes I know, LOL) but my husband (the king of bribes) had been saying for a month that he would make cupcakes if my son just tried his underwear on. We had debated sneakily taking the inserts out of his pocket diapers, taking diapers away etc. but in the end I still felt like my “method” of letting him lead the way was best. For other children, other methods might work, but not for my son.
So around the end of April, I was working on my May post for the Kelly Wels blog, which was about cloth diapers & potty training. Although the post published on my son’s third birthday, by that time he’d been in undies for nearly a month! Literally the day after I typed that post, he said he wanted to wear underwear, and he hasn’t looked back since!
To encourage him to remember to use the potty, we bought a bag of Dum Dum lollipops, and he got one each time he went. Again, bribing isn’t the best and I know foods as rewards aren’t either. BUT, using the right things to motivate your child can go far. For my daughter, a chart where she got to put stamps and stickers was perfect. The lollipops were just right for my son. By the time the bag of lollipops was empty, he was rarely having accidents. It took him just a few days to figure out #2 in the potty, and he hardly ever ends up wet, usually when he is too busy playing outside & forgets!
I’m really not even trying to get him in undies at night right now. I felt like a bad mom when he didn’t want to put a diaper on that first night, and I put him in one anyway, but his mattress is not waterproof, and I didn’t have a cover for it yet! He wakes up with a dry diaper sometimes, but not always. That will happen in time.
Right now he’s just using the little potty we have in the family room, and he takes his pants and underwear completely off each time (LOL.) He uses the “big potty” with a potty seat upstairs, but he still needs some help getting up and down. He is quite petite and needs help reaching to wash his hands, and of course he then needs help putting his pants & underwear back on.
I’m trying to tell myself that 3 months is a long time and that he will be able to go to the bathroom by himself, without stripping, by the time preschool starts! I try not to compare my children, but I recall that my daughter was going to the bathroom totally by herself, and not even using a potty seat at that age. She was also dressing herself! Then again, her birthday is 3 1/2 months earlier in the year than his, and 3 1/2 months is a long time for a 3 year old to grow and change.
Is anyone else potty training?