Last month, we visited my Grandparents in Tennessee, as a surprise for their 60th wedding anniversary. My husband and I were there with our 3 kids, and my Mom & Dad, sister, Aunt and her 2 children went as well. We all went out to dinner and the waitress asked for their secret to a happy marriage.
My Grandpa paused for a second, then deadpanned “I traveled a lot for business.” I think humor in marriage is key (something else I want to write about), but I honestly think he’s on to something.
My husband rarely travels now, but for a few years, he had a job where 25% travel was required. One particular summer, he was gone about 2 weeks out of every month. It was definitely hard to have him gone, but there is a lot of truth to the old adage: “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Most of the time we dropped him off at the airport and picked him up, and the kids missed him, but had fun sending him photos, drawing pictures for him, and talking to him on the phone before bed. We would often text, talk, or chat on the computer before bed, while when he’s home, he’s usually too busy tinkering with something, watching TV etc. to just talk to me.
When he came home, I think we all appreciated him a bit more, and it also helped me feel more independent, that I can get things done by myself, though things like bedtime are a bit more difficult without the extra set of hands!
My husband complains about the food, the traveling and the uncomfortable hotel pillows, but I think it’s good for him to get away. He has had the chance to visit Los Angeles, Seattle, Atlanta, and technically Belgium and Germany (the airports, LOL.) He’s seen the Grand Canyon and the sunrise in Sedona, and he’s eaten authentic Italian cuisine in Italy. He has gotten to visit museums and throw back a few beers and some good food with friendly coworkers in the evenings. He’s even gotten to do a little gambling when they’ve had work to do in Atlantic city.
My husband’s Grandpa knew of my Grandpa when he worked for a company that my Grandpa sold to (how weird is that?) and when my husband has come home from conferences with “swag” like pens and hand sanitizers, it reminded me of my Grandpa bringing us trinkets like that when we were little girls!
I have heard some women say they can’t sleep when their husbands are away, but I don’t mind. In fact, I lived alone before we got married (not that long since we were married young!) and I enjoy the silence in the evenings and having one less person to clean up after (kidding, sorta.) Plus, I really like having the bed all to myself.
We’ve been married for 11 years, and have made it through an awful lot of trials and tribulations. I hope we will be married 60 years too!